8 Things men wish women knew about them. A Must Read For Every Woman
- Bossy Women
When a woman is being ‘bossy’, she might be thinking it’s an expression of love, but this is one aspect of a relationship that catastrophe could easily set in. Naturally men have the urge to be the Boss. No matter his educational background, financial status, height, or status in society. Determine to leave that space for him to operate as he was created or soon you’ll find him trying to compete and this can be very disastrous in a relationship. If you let him be the man he’s supposed to be regardless, he’ll love you as you are regardless.
- Using Sex as a Fight back Tool
You often hear men talk about being denied sex due to anger or arguments in the home. Sometimes, some women want to use this medium as a means of payback for something that he has done wrong. Before you know he will either start looking for what you are denying him outside and the effects can be very unpleasant. No matter what happens, never use sex as a tool to fight back, you might win your fight, but loose him to someone else eventually.
- Don’t Bother Him with So much Calls Whilst He’s Driving
Where are you Now? Where have you reached? Are you sure you left the office the time you said you did? If so why are you not here now? These are but few of the many questions you often hear men complain about. As much as men believe in transparency in a relationship, certain behavior can be out of place. When he sets off from work to the house, at least a call will do but not many calls just trying to prove a point when he is driving. Wish him safe journey back home and trust he is driving straight home. It’s so frustrating to have to answer so many calls just answering one question in many forms. When a man realizes you don’t trust him, he might never try to gain your trust again, especially if he’s not doing anything wrong. Never try to settle the matter whiles he’s driving, always let him get home first.
- Not Loving His Child If Not Yours
As the saying goes, ‘love me, love my dog’. Never try to put any impediments between him and his child. If you accept him as your man, then accept his child also as yours. When you treat his child with love and care, you are likely to win his love without much effort. If you know you might have challenges with his child in the future, stay away and don’t proceed into that relationship with pretense. Because no matter how long you pretend, one day it will show and this could be very disastrous. If a man with a child is not your ‘type’, just let him go.
- Not Preparing chores
This is not an expression of slavery but as the saying goes, ‘the way to a man’s hearts is through his stomach.’ You often hear men complain about being feed up with eating junk food. We leave in a world where both men and women seem busy. That’s understandable. Nothing against that, but can you find a way to prepare some soup, stew, salad, and refrigerate them. If you can’t then you must find better way to talk it over as two matured adults. He might seem not bothered in the beginning but as time goes on, he’ll be compelled to eat from elsewhere and this could mean a lot of things. It could even mean eating from a lady friend’s house and the consequences can be dire. If they way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, then the one who manages to get to his stomach may also win his heart. Make every possible arrangement to have food delivered and served at home.
- Not Giving Him Compliments
It is believed that women love the compliments but that’s not an issue for women only. Men also love to be complimented. Men wants to be noticed, so the next time you are around your man, whether vocally or through a stare, let him know how those shoes fit, how the shit on his biceps, how unique he is, what attracted you to him. Why he’s different from all the other guys out there. If he’s doing well as a dad, voice it out and see how he reciprocates. He might start buying you expensive ‘roses’ just because of your compliments.
- When you Talk To Him believe He Has Heard You
Men are naturally egotistical. If there’s one thing most men are good at, its pretence. When you talk to him don’t expect him to always say ‘I have heard you’. You may be right but men love to pretend they haven’t heard or understood what you just said, especially when it’s not in their favour. However, know that men always hear when you talk, and they adhere to your advice but maybe not in your presence. So be confident and talk to him about anything and believe he has heard you. Don’t worry if he walks out or keeps looking the opposite direction whiles you are talking to him. It’s just a strategy be make you believe he is not listening, but it will surprise you to know that what he heard from you is what he’ll implement.
- Don’t Report Him To Anyone If You Haven’t Spoken To Him First
No matter what happens, always try and talk to your man first before the second person gets a hint of the situation. When he realizes that you trust people outside your home more than him, he may never bother himself with you again. Never complain to anyone before you talk to him. Try and talk to him first and when he doesn’t listen and do anything about it, then find someone you both trust and respect and bring the person into the discussion.
The writer recently engaged a group of 200 men in a discussion about ‘what men hate’ and this was the outcome.
